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		<title>By: A-new-beginning</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-14956</link>
		<dc:creator>A-new-beginning</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jan 2010 19:30:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>FriendlyFire - I am not sure you will get this, but its great read your post. SRC was one of the churches I attended. You were the SR Pastor when I was there, then suddenly Mickey was in control, then he left for NC then BB was in charge for a little while. 

I wish I was there they day you returned for a visit. I am not sure we would have talked much; we never really did (my fault). But I wonder if we did talk that day you returned, would I have by chance learned the truth and left before the pain I had to endure. I was not a church that day, but I always wonder, if I had been more proactive in wanting to know the truth- how much pain would I have spared myself. Granted we were told to give you space and time to heal - but I have to wonder if that was to keep us from learning the real deal.  Perhaps if we pursued the truth we would have experienced being removed by MC or who knows.
It can’t go in to all that happened to us. Though I too went though sleepless nights – thoughts of suicide – depression of a couple of years – I am sure what I experience is less than the pain you felt and still feel. 

I wish you all the best,</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>FriendlyFire &#8211; I am not sure you will get this, but its great read your post. SRC was one of the churches I attended. You were the SR Pastor when I was there, then suddenly Mickey was in control, then he left for NC then BB was in charge for a little while. </p>
<p>I wish I was there they day you returned for a visit. I am not sure we would have talked much; we never really did (my fault). But I wonder if we did talk that day you returned, would I have by chance learned the truth and left before the pain I had to endure. I was not a church that day, but I always wonder, if I had been more proactive in wanting to know the truth- how much pain would I have spared myself. Granted we were told to give you space and time to heal &#8211; but I have to wonder if that was to keep us from learning the real deal.  Perhaps if we pursued the truth we would have experienced being removed by MC or who knows.<br />
It can’t go in to all that happened to us. Though I too went though sleepless nights – thoughts of suicide – depression of a couple of years – I am sure what I experience is less than the pain you felt and still feel. </p>
<p>I wish you all the best,</p>
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		<title>By: Jim</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jim</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jan 2010 11:44:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;p&gt;Gone for Good-&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;jim@sgmrefuge.com&lt;/p&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Gone for Good-</p>
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		<title>By: Hope</title>
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		<dc:creator>Hope</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jan 2010 06:09:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Gone for Good,
You can find Jim&#039;s contact info by going to the About tab at the top right.
Blessings,
Hope</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Gone for Good,<br />
You can find Jim&#8217;s contact info by going to the About tab at the top right.<br />
Blessings,<br />
Hope</p>
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		<title>By: Gone for Good</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-14793</link>
		<dc:creator>Gone for Good</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Jan 2010 04:59:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jim,
Anyway I can communicate with you offline?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jim,<br />
Anyway I can communicate with you offline?</p>
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		<title>By: Gratefully Disillusioned from SGM</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13799</link>
		<dc:creator>Gratefully Disillusioned from SGM</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 25 Oct 2009 15:53:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Welcpme back Jim and Carol.</description>
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		<title>By: Steve240</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13796</link>
		<dc:creator>Steve240</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:54:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Fred
Good point about Gene Emerson.  Though it was encouraging to hear an SGM pastor (especially an &quot;apostle&quot;) actually admit he did something wrong etc. you make some good points.  Just cause he did some admitting doesn&#039;t mean that he has changed.  His admitting some errors for a change was a direction in the right step but like you seem to indicate it is doubtful how far he will go on admitting past mistakes etc.
Thus don&#039;t assume that there is a major change just because an &quot;apostle&quot; finally admits he made some mistakes.
Bethany
One other item to share with you though I am sure I have given you more of an answer than you asked for is what I noticed in Carolyn McCulley&#039;s &quot;Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye&quot; book.  In the intro she talks about a group of single women embracing &quot;kissing dating goodbye&quot; and expressed shock that some years later most weren&#039;t married.  It apparently never occurs to her to ask if maybe the two are related such as a cause affect.  That is maybe these women &quot;kissing dating goodbye&quot; and the problems it creates caused these women to at least temporarily kiss marriage goodbye.
Unfortunately like so many who embrace &quot;kissing dating goodbye&quot; is that they become so convinced that it is the superior alternative to dating that they become blind to the problems it creates.  I have a blog entry that talks about this:
http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/does-kissing-dating-goodbye-lead-to-kissing-marriage-goodbye/
Hope this helps.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Fred<br />
Good point about Gene Emerson.  Though it was encouraging to hear an SGM pastor (especially an &#8220;apostle&#8221;) actually admit he did something wrong etc. you make some good points.  Just cause he did some admitting doesn&#8217;t mean that he has changed.  His admitting some errors for a change was a direction in the right step but like you seem to indicate it is doubtful how far he will go on admitting past mistakes etc.<br />
Thus don&#8217;t assume that there is a major change just because an &#8220;apostle&#8221; finally admits he made some mistakes.<br />
Bethany<br />
One other item to share with you though I am sure I have given you more of an answer than you asked for is what I noticed in Carolyn McCulley&#8217;s &#8220;Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye&#8221; book.  In the intro she talks about a group of single women embracing &#8220;kissing dating goodbye&#8221; and expressed shock that some years later most weren&#8217;t married.  It apparently never occurs to her to ask if maybe the two are related such as a cause affect.  That is maybe these women &#8220;kissing dating goodbye&#8221; and the problems it creates caused these women to at least temporarily kiss marriage goodbye.<br />
Unfortunately like so many who embrace &#8220;kissing dating goodbye&#8221; is that they become so convinced that it is the superior alternative to dating that they become blind to the problems it creates.  I have a blog entry that talks about this:<br />
<a href="http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/does-kissing-dating-goodbye-lead-to-kissing-marriage-goodbye/" rel="nofollow">http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2009.....e-goodbye/</a><br />
Hope this helps.</p>
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		<title>By: Fred</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13794</link>
		<dc:creator>Fred</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2009 13:19:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>To all concerned:
Please be very careful of Gene!  He has admitted that he used to hurt his people but that now he has learned a different way!  No words spoken about repentance and being broken hearted over what he had done, just that he had learned a different way.  One can &quot;learn a different way&quot; and demonstrate different behavior but has the heart been changed by the Spirit of God or is it a tactic of control and manipulation?

There have been many dangerous and very wrong things happening at Kingsway under Gene&#039;s &quot;leadership&quot; and oversight over the years.  Just last Dec., Gene oversaw and ran a very ungodly meeting in Chesapeake.  The &quot;3 couples&quot; who were trying to help the church in Chesapeake were basically called enemies of the church by Gene. This is actually minor compared with what has taken place in Kingsway, Gene&#039;s church. CJ knows what has happened under Gene&#039;s leadership over the years so one must ask: why is he still an &quot;apostle&quot; and pastor?  Men have been removed from their positions within SGM for far less than what Gene has done.

Please be very careful when listening to anything that this man has to say. Can you say &quot;wolf in sheep&#039;s clothing&quot;?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>To all concerned:<br />
Please be very careful of Gene!  He has admitted that he used to hurt his people but that now he has learned a different way!  No words spoken about repentance and being broken hearted over what he had done, just that he had learned a different way.  One can &#8220;learn a different way&#8221; and demonstrate different behavior but has the heart been changed by the Spirit of God or is it a tactic of control and manipulation?</p>
<p>There have been many dangerous and very wrong things happening at Kingsway under Gene&#8217;s &#8220;leadership&#8221; and oversight over the years.  Just last Dec., Gene oversaw and ran a very ungodly meeting in Chesapeake.  The &#8220;3 couples&#8221; who were trying to help the church in Chesapeake were basically called enemies of the church by Gene. This is actually minor compared with what has taken place in Kingsway, Gene&#8217;s church. CJ knows what has happened under Gene&#8217;s leadership over the years so one must ask: why is he still an &#8220;apostle&#8221; and pastor?  Men have been removed from their positions within SGM for far less than what Gene has done.</p>
<p>Please be very careful when listening to anything that this man has to say. Can you say &#8220;wolf in sheep&#8217;s clothing&#8221;?</p>
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		<title>By: jiggler</title>
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		<dc:creator>jiggler</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:54:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>A whole discussion on assness and the jiggler missed it.
 
*sigh</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A whole discussion on assness and the jiggler missed it.<br />
 <br />
*sigh</p>
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		<title>By: Steve240</title>
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		<dc:creator>Steve240</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Oct 2009 03:13:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Bethany
No problem.  I just wanted to make sure you saw some of my points about Harris no matter what your circumstance was.
I have had a few &quot;discussions&quot; with SGM Defenders that seem to think the one or two messages that Josh Harris gave somewhat correcting IKDG absolves Harris of all the problems his book has created.  I wasn&#039;t sure if you were one or not.
I am glad you aren&#039;t a Harris defender.
Thanks again.
Steve</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Bethany<br />
No problem.  I just wanted to make sure you saw some of my points about Harris no matter what your circumstance was.<br />
I have had a few &#8220;discussions&#8221; with SGM Defenders that seem to think the one or two messages that Josh Harris gave somewhat correcting IKDG absolves Harris of all the problems his book has created.  I wasn&#8217;t sure if you were one or not.<br />
I am glad you aren&#8217;t a Harris defender.<br />
Thanks again.<br />
Steve</p>
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		<title>By: Bethany</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13765</link>
		<dc:creator>Bethany</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:15:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Steve,

Thanks for the other sites. I am no friend of SGM and spent the last five years at a SGM church. Sorry if I sent off mixed signals in my initial post. :-P</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Steve,</p>
<p>Thanks for the other sites. I am no friend of SGM and spent the last five years at a SGM church. Sorry if I sent off mixed signals in my initial post. <img src='http://sgmrefuge.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_razz.gif' alt=':-P' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Singing Cook</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13760</link>
		<dc:creator>Singing Cook</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:31:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jim and Collateral,
&quot;Thank you for praying for my assness.&quot;  &amp;  &quot;assness- classic&quot;
thank you both for making me LAUGH OUT LOUD.  I can&#039;t remember the last time I LOL.
Priceless!!!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jim and Collateral,<br />
&#8220;Thank you for praying for my assness.&#8221;  &amp;  &#8220;assness- classic&#8221;<br />
thank you both for making me LAUGH OUT LOUD.  I can&#8217;t remember the last time I LOL.<br />
Priceless!!!!!</p>
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		<title>By: Steve240</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13752</link>
		<dc:creator>Steve240</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 19:17:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Bethany
I am glad that I helped clarify what I was saying.
SGM has been practicing &quot;kssing dating goodbye&quot; almost since the group originally started over 30 years ago. It has certainly shown to have a number of problems.  Josh Harris is the only SGM Leader that I am aware of to at least admit some problems so that is something to commend him on.  On the other hand since various problems with &quot;kissing dating goodbye&quot; have existed for so long it is sad that Josh Harris never admitted these problems in his book including his book&#039;s one revision.
Most of the SGM Pastors I have seen only want to hear what they want to hear about &quot;kissing dating goodbye&quot; and thus only hear how supposedly good it works and not the problems it has caused.  Sadly Josh Harris in his book painted a false picture of &quot;kissing dating&quot; goodbye by neglecting the problems it has caused and has done little to correct it.
In one interview he said that people using his book legalistically was beyond his control
Here are a few other blog entries you might find informative:
http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2008/02/25/did-joshua-harris-forget-his-own-churchs-history-with-courtshipgroups/
http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2007/12/26/josh-harriss-view-on-people-using-his-book-legalistically/
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Bethany<br />
I am glad that I helped clarify what I was saying.<br />
SGM has been practicing &#8220;kssing dating goodbye&#8221; almost since the group originally started over 30 years ago. It has certainly shown to have a number of problems.  Josh Harris is the only SGM Leader that I am aware of to at least admit some problems so that is something to commend him on.  On the other hand since various problems with &#8220;kissing dating goodbye&#8221; have existed for so long it is sad that Josh Harris never admitted these problems in his book including his book&#8217;s one revision.<br />
Most of the SGM Pastors I have seen only want to hear what they want to hear about &#8220;kissing dating goodbye&#8221; and thus only hear how supposedly good it works and not the problems it has caused.  Sadly Josh Harris in his book painted a false picture of &#8220;kissing dating&#8221; goodbye by neglecting the problems it has caused and has done little to correct it.<br />
In one interview he said that people using his book legalistically was beyond his control<br />
Here are a few other blog entries you might find informative:<br />
<a href="http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2008/02/25/did-joshua-harris-forget-his-own-churchs-history-with-courtshipgroups/" rel="nofollow">http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2008.....hipgroups/</a><br />
<a href="http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2007/12/26/josh-harriss-view-on-people-using-his-book-legalistically/" rel="nofollow">http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2007.....istically/</a><br />
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		<title>By: Canary</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13743</link>
		<dc:creator>Canary</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:55:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>To Jim:    You&#039;ve helped far more people than you&#039;ve hurt by starting this blog.  Just had to speak up in defense of your efforts, here. :)  I have to add that I like how you humor the critics!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>To Jim:    You&#8217;ve helped far more people than you&#8217;ve hurt by starting this blog.  Just had to speak up in defense of your efforts, here. <img src='http://sgmrefuge.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />   I have to add that I like how you humor the critics!</p>
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		<title>By: Bethany</title>
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		<dc:creator>Bethany</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 13:58:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Steve,

I will have to tak a look at your blog post. Thanks for he clarification :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Steve,</p>
<p>I will have to tak a look at your blog post. Thanks for he clarification <img src='http://sgmrefuge.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Square Peg</title>
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		<dc:creator>Square Peg</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 03:56:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Charlie --  Chuckling ... has anyone else noticed  it&#039;s a characteristic of  SGM pastor-speak to address every guy  as  &quot;bro&quot; ?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Charlie &#8211;  Chuckling &#8230; has anyone else noticed  it&#8217;s a characteristic of  SGM pastor-speak to address every guy  as  &#8221;bro&#8221; ?</p>
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		<title>By: Steve240</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13732</link>
		<dc:creator>Steve240</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 03:54:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Bethany
Regarding Josh Harris not really admitting problems with &quot;kissing dating goodbye&quot; you might want to look at this blog entry of mine:
http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2008/04/30/what-problems-joshua-harris-acknowledged-about-how-singles-relate-at-his-church-but-doesn%E2%80%99t-share-on-his-website/
Josh Harris may have admitted some of the problems to his local church but from what I have seen has been silent about broadcasting these problems where they would be more widely known like his blog.  It certainly baffles me that he hasn&#039;t done this but I am sure there could be various reasons for his reluctance to more openly admit the problems.  It is what brought him to fame and might look bad if he admitted how imperfect and the flaws of something that brought him to prominence.  Only God and possibly Josh Harris know the real motivation.
I also heard that there was a power struggle within SGM and Josh Harris was wanting to take a more relaxed approach while Brent Detwiler apposed that.  In that struggle Detwiler won.
Hope this clarifies what I mean.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Bethany<br />
Regarding Josh Harris not really admitting problems with &#8220;kissing dating goodbye&#8221; you might want to look at this blog entry of mine:<br />
<a href="http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2008/04/30/what-problems-joshua-harris-acknowledged-about-how-singles-relate-at-his-church-but-doesn%E2%80%99t-share-on-his-website/" rel="nofollow">http://ikdg.wordpress.com/2008.....s-website/</a><br />
Josh Harris may have admitted some of the problems to his local church but from what I have seen has been silent about broadcasting these problems where they would be more widely known like his blog.  It certainly baffles me that he hasn&#8217;t done this but I am sure there could be various reasons for his reluctance to more openly admit the problems.  It is what brought him to fame and might look bad if he admitted how imperfect and the flaws of something that brought him to prominence.  Only God and possibly Josh Harris know the real motivation.<br />
I also heard that there was a power struggle within SGM and Josh Harris was wanting to take a more relaxed approach while Brent Detwiler apposed that.  In that struggle Detwiler won.<br />
Hope this clarifies what I mean.</p>
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		<title>By: Charlie</title>
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		<dc:creator>Charlie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 03:42:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hello Andy,

  I was just wondering which local Sovereign Grace Ministries church do you pastor?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hello Andy,</p>
<p>  I was just wondering which local Sovereign Grace Ministries church do you pastor?</p>
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		<title>By: Bethany</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13727</link>
		<dc:creator>Bethany</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Oct 2009 01:51:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Who knows, maybe next will be Josh Harris admitting the problems his “kissing dating goodbye” approach has caused vs. the perfect picture he paints of his approach.

Steve,

To my knowledge Josh did speak about how his book was taken too far and he was encouraging men to go out with women to grab coffee and just talk. A friend of mine told me about this sermon because this was an area in the former church I attended that was always taught with mixed signals.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Who knows, maybe next will be Josh Harris admitting the problems his “kissing dating goodbye” approach has caused vs. the perfect picture he paints of his approach.</p>
<p>Steve,</p>
<p>To my knowledge Josh did speak about how his book was taken too far and he was encouraging men to go out with women to grab coffee and just talk. A friend of mine told me about this sermon because this was an area in the former church I attended that was always taught with mixed signals.</p>
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		<title>By: Dennis</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13723</link>
		<dc:creator>Dennis</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:46:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi GDfSGM,

My assness is bigger than all of the contestants on &quot;Biggest Loser&quot; put together into one giant ass. I am very proud of that. I have worked very hard to be in the Guinness Book under the biggest ass ever. No condemnation whatsoever. I know God has and does continue to forgive my assness. 

Jim,

Thank you for conceeding. You obviously had no choice.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi GDfSGM,</p>
<p>My assness is bigger than all of the contestants on &#8220;Biggest Loser&#8221; put together into one giant ass. I am very proud of that. I have worked very hard to be in the Guinness Book under the biggest ass ever. No condemnation whatsoever. I know God has and does continue to forgive my assness. </p>
<p>Jim,</p>
<p>Thank you for conceeding. You obviously had no choice.</p>
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		<title>By: Square Peg</title>
		<link>http://sgmrefuge.com/2009/07/27/bye-brent/comment-page-7/#comment-13721</link>
		<dc:creator>Square Peg</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:39:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Can I believe what I&#039;m reading -- somebody comes around calling names while simultaneously demonstrating  definition of such??  Too funny -- and I loved the gracious responses from Gratefully Disillusioned and the so-called Bit.  (Perhaps, Jim, you might consider changing your handle...)  

The hard part about reading people&#039;s opinions/posts is that we can never hear the voice, the nuance, the attitude behind the words.  In reading them, we often get them wrong -- our reading is always colored by what&#039;s going on in our own world at that moment.    

Have a great day, folks, extending GRACE  -- which, by definition, is always unmerited!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Can I believe what I&#8217;m reading &#8212; somebody comes around calling names while simultaneously demonstrating  definition of such??  Too funny &#8212; and I loved the gracious responses from Gratefully Disillusioned and the so-called Bit.  (Perhaps, Jim, you might consider changing your handle&#8230;)  </p>
<p>The hard part about reading people&#8217;s opinions/posts is that we can never hear the voice, the nuance, the attitude behind the words.  In reading them, we often get them wrong &#8212; our reading is always colored by what&#8217;s going on in our own world at that moment.    </p>
<p>Have a great day, folks, extending GRACE  &#8212; which, by definition, is always unmerited!</p>
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